Tuesday, December 07, 2010

Last name game

I started this post right after the wedding and never uploaded it and this topic has came across my mind once again. Unlike most newly married women I didn't come straight home from the honeymoon and get on the phone and start changing my last name and I still have not done it. WHY? Because I can't figure out what I want to do. I have had my {maiden} last name all of my life and I'm attached to it some kind of way. So there lies my dilemma. Should I hyphenate which I hear causes lots of problems? Or should I have double last names like Hilliary Diane Rodham Clinton? I am not willing to just drop my last name right now at least. I am still in Grad school and it would cause a host of problems for me. I am not interested in dropping my middle name to replace my last name with my middle name. From my research I only have the 2 options I just described and keeping my name the way it is.

I know different people do things for different reasons. Neither of us have any children and I am 100% on board for our children to have DH's last name and at that point I would also want to have the last name as well. This is a 1st marriage for both of us. I have academic publications in my maiden last name and we all know how hard it can be to be published. My previous degrees are all in my maiden name and I hopefully I will be graduating again in a few months. I guess I have to make some decision soon. We discussed before marriage and I still could not decide but now that we are married I have to make a decision. My DHs feelings would be hurt if I don't change my name so I either have to hyphenate or have double last names... any thoughts

1 comment:

  1. If I had it to do over I'd go for the double last name. I haven't done anything special so dropping my maiden name wasn't a big deal for that. I went ahead and did it but it's been really hard because my last maiden name is me. I didn't want to hyphenate.